Whether it’s winning the battle against the snooze alarm, winning the job interview race for a new role or winning a customer in business from a competitor, the need to win in life is essential. Here are my three tips for winning the race of life:
When you’re in a battle, whether it’s against yourself or a competitor, your own belief in yourself and your ability is the most powerful weapon you can ever have. Your belief needs to be so strong that there is no other result possible than the one you are striving for.
2. Fire in your belly
You have to find that fire in your belly, that desire which makes you want it more than anything. You have to want it more than your fear. You have to want it more than the effort it takes. You have to be so determined that no one and nothing can stop you.
3. Do what others won’t or don’t
To rise to the highest level, you have to be prepared to do what all the others won’t. To stand out as exceptional, all you need to do is the small things that others don’t. There is only room at the top for one. Someone has to be there, so why not you?
When you really want something in your life, you have to reach the point where you want it more than you are afraid of it. Alternatively, you need to feel the pain of not achieving it, and be driven towards avoiding that pain.
Rarely will something come to you until you are truly ready to embrace the steps you need to take to get there, regardless of the challenges. But the bottom line is, taking action is the only way forward.
Everyone has blockages preventing them from achieving certain things. Everyone is afraid of something and that’s perfectly ok.
Do you hate your job so much that you could quite happily throw it in tomorrow without a second thought?
Ok! Hold it right there. Step away from the keyboard. Before you hand in your resignation papers, there are a few questions you need to ponder.
What do you want out of your work and your life? Do you need a new job or do you need a new perspective? Is your problem really a job problem or is it actually a YOU problem?
What exactly is the pain point for you? Is the issue you are miserable about going to disappear in a new environment? Is the grass actually going to be greener? Are you 100% sure about that?
Don’t get me wrong. There may actually be a problem outside your control that is making you miserable. Sometimes it is the job – the lack of purpose in the company, the lack of leadership, the lack of inspiration, the lack of autonomy or the poor culture.
However, sometimes it’s your thinking and your perspective. Sometimes everything else going on in your life outside and around your work is influencing how you are seeing your situation and if you put yourself in a new situation, with the same thinking, you’d be no happier.
Moral of the story – a change in thinking may very well change your experience.
Personal success is something very unique to you and it’s a journey filled with ups and downs, good and bad, highs and lows. It is actually a state of achievement that is as individual to you as your personality. Your version of success is very different to mine and probably very different to your family, your friends, your colleagues and your boss.
You can find personal success anywhere and it’s not a single destination. One of the keys to personal success is finding fulfillment in daily wins. Success needs to be a journey and not a single destination.
Personal success is not about being rich and powerful
When I say the word “success”, do you think of people who are rich and/or powerful? If you do, it’s not surprising. Interestingly, when those who are held up as society’s ultimate examples of success, they have different things to say.
Serial entrepreneur, world adventurer and founder of the Virgin group of companies, Richard Branson, believes success is about happiness.
“Too many people measure how successful they are by how much money they make or the people that they associate with,” he wrote on LinkedIn. “In my opinion, true success should be measured by how happy you are.”
Your definition of personal success
How you define personal success throughout your life will change. As a child, you viewed success in a very different way to when you were a teenager. Your version of success as a parent is going to be different to your interpretation of success as a single person focused on your career.
It’s important to be clear on your version of success and how it is relative to your current stage in life. As your life changes, and as your circumstances evolve, you need to be prepared to reassess what success means to you. It will change. Wwhat does success mean to you today? If you are working under the expectation of reaching someone else’s version of success each day, you will find fulfillment is hard to achieve. When you chase someone else’s dreams, you may end up living in a world of frustration and resentment.
Which version of success is yours (you may have a combination of a few of these)?
Happy / content / fulfilled
Big bank balance
Top of your field
Good relationships with partner, family and friends
Work / life balance
Achieving / following your dreams
Align your goals with your version of personal success in order to achieve your best life. Be clear on your version of success as you set your own personal goals and seek to understand the version of success of those in your life.
Many things appear impossible, until he who believes it is possible, tries.
· Prior to 1875, swimming across the English Chanel was thought to be impossible… Until Captain Matthew Webb achieved the feat.
· Prior to 1903, no-one believed that it was possible for human beings to fly… Until the Wright brothers took to the sky.
· Prior to 1953, conquering the ‘roof of the world’ by climbing to the summit of Mt Everest was considered impossible after numerous failed attempts by ambitious climbers… Until Edmund Hilary and Tenzing Norgay conquered the mountain.
· Prior to 1954, the athletics world believed no-one could run the mile in under 4 minutes… Until Roger Banister did it.
· Prior to 1969, man landing on the moon was a pipe dream… Until Neil Armstrong and the crew of Apollo 11 took those famous first steps.
“It always seems impossible, until it’s done” – Nelson Mandela
Prioritise – make a ‘must do’ list each day. If it doesn’t need to be done by the time you get into bed tonight, leave it until tomorrow / next week. When you have extra free time, then you can focus on getting ahead.
Focus on today –keep your focus on today’s tasks. Worrying about tomorrow or the future is futile and simply distracts you from maximising your efficiency in the present moment.
Learn to say no – be realistic about what you can achieve in a day / week. Over scheduling leads to stress, inefficiency and exhaustion which is counter-productive to getting things done.
Learn to delegate – you do not have to do everything yourself. Find ways to delegate tasks to AT’s, partners, office assistant, virtual assistant, members.
Preserve your greatest asset – YOU – Schedule in breaks and make sure you take time out for yourself. A short break every now and then let’s you refresh and recharge your batteries and helps clear your head.
Chunk time – Time chunking has been shown to be an effective time management technique. Time chunking is about setting yourself chunks of time throughout your day to focus on one particular task or set of tasks.
Close down or silence distractions– Turn off Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. Even checking emails every time you hear the incoming message sound can distract from your efficiency while trying to complete other tasks.
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Perspective – a particular attitude towards or way of regarding something; a point of view.
Life is full of experiences.
Why is it that the same experience can happen to two different people yet one becomes upset and agitated by the experience while the other sees it as a positive result?
Why can two different people with the same skills and ability look at the same opportunity, and one of them takes the opportunity and makes the most of it while the other passes it by?
Why do some people learn from their mistakes while others simply want to blame others for the same mistake?
Why is it that given the same level of support, one business owner takes advice and rises to the challenge while the other shirks their responsibility and makes dozens of excuses?
You can work towards achieving the things that you want to experience in life but in the end, there are certain things you simply can’t change. It’s not what happens to you that determines the outcome but rather the way in which you view it that matters.