The glass half full – can the pessimist become the optimist?

can the pessimist become the optimist?

Can the pessimist become an optimist?

The optimist and the pessimist. You’re either one or the other, aren’t you? The optimist is upbeat, always seeing the glass half full. The pessimist wallows in self-pity, moaning over their half empty glass. The optimist achieves excellence while the pessimist blames everyone and everything for their failures. Which are you? Continue reading “The glass half full – can the pessimist become the optimist?”

Personal development – 14 ways to invest in yourself

Personal development - 14 ways to invest in yourself

You are your greatest asset

Personal development is the key to bettering yourself. If you are a business owner, and especially if you are a solopreneur,  you are your business. Looking after yourself and working on yourself is so important. You are your greatest asset, so how are you investing in yourself and how are you striving to learn and be just a little bit better today than yesterday? Your willingness to invest in personal development will play a huge role in your future success.

In last week’s post, I talked about the importance of investing in your business if you want to create success. The same can be said for investing in yourself. If you want to create personal success, it is wise to invest in your personal development. Continue reading “Personal development – 14 ways to invest in yourself”

Hey overthinker – stop doing that!

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The overthinker

Are you a classic overthinker? You know… you have a simple decision to make, but you think it through for so long, you end up making no decision at all. You need to take action, but before you decide on the right steps to take, you run every scenario through your head. You tie yourself up in knots so tight that you can’t break free to move even one step forward. Continue reading “Hey overthinker – stop doing that!”

Self sabotage: why do you choose the hard road?

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Self sabotage is a very real struggle

Someone once asked me “Why do you always insist on taking the hard road.” I replied, “Why do you assume I see 2 roads?” As a coach, I can easily relate to this mindset and I know it is a very real struggle for many people. Of course, I’m talking about self sabotage.

This probably speaks to you if you’re someone who finds it impossible to break out of bad habits or destructive behaviour. You know you’re doing things you shouldn’t but you can’t seem to make better choices. Continue reading “Self sabotage: why do you choose the hard road?”

Goal setting… it starts with planting the seed

Planting the seed, goal setting.

Have you ever experienced the feeling of achieving a really massive goal?

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve helped someone achieve a goal, when they’d initially told me  “I can’t do that”, I could retire tomorrow. What a nice thought!

Sometimes it was a small goal, like completing one full push-up or jogging 400 metres around the block without stopping. Other times it was something huge, like running a marathon, writing a book or starting a brand new business. Continue reading “Goal setting… it starts with planting the seed”

The Productive Procrastinator

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Is there such thing as a productive procrastinator?

Hands up if you are a terrible procrastinator. Yep, me too! However somehow I am also incredibly productive so it got me thinking. Is there such thing as a productive procrastinator? I think the answer might be yes.

How is it possible that you could be very productive and a terrible procrastinator at the same time? I think it comes down to working to your strengths. And in my experience, that seems to be the key to productivity. Continue reading “The Productive Procrastinator”

Self doubt isn’t all bad – 8 strategies for overcoming self doubt in business

self doubt - why experiencing self doubt isn't all bad

Self doubt isn’t all that bad

Every business owner experiences self doubt at one point or another and the great news is that self doubt isn’t all bad!

The pressure of being a business owner and running a business often feeds an ongoing battle between self confidence and self doubt. Even the best business owners face this battle continuously. The question of how to overcome self doubt is one I get asked quite a bit and there are definitely are some great strategies that can help. Continue reading “Self doubt isn’t all bad – 8 strategies for overcoming self doubt in business”

Don’t believe everything you think

Believe in yourself

We all know not to believe everything we read in the media.

The media is full of sensationalist stories, designed to make you believe what the publishers want you to believe. The stories are designed to sell papers, magazines, and advertising. Stories make money and the more sensational the story, the more chance you will buy. The more money the publishers and share holders makes. Therefore you shouldn’t believe everything you read.

You shouldn’t believe everything you think either! Your thoughts are often just stories you’re telling yourself to “sell” yourself an idea and validate your situation. You might have heard the old saying, ‘there are three sides to every story: your side, my side and the truth’. Your perspective can create a completely different story in your mind compared to the reality of the situation. Watch out! Your perspective can sometimes have you on the wrong tracks.

Same situation, different reaction

How is it that the same situation can illicit completely different reactions in two different people. Two individuals could lose their job: one spirals into a pit of depression, believing that it’s the worst thing that has ever happened. The other sees a huge opportunity to try something new or venture out into a new career.

As humans we are notorious for creating mountains out of mole hills and for inventing drama for the fun of it. It’s so common to believe in excuses which have no merit and to tell yourself stories about all kinds of awful things that may happen which are simply not true.

Your thoughts are seeded in self-preservation. It’s human nature to do everything possible to stay safe and stay alive. Instead of taking the easiest road from point A to point B, you might find yourself taking the hard road instead because you don’t realise there is a better way. Your thoughts are designed to help you avoid pain, and to protect you from harm. But in protecting you from pain and harm, your thoughts can lead you away from doing what may be necessary to achieve growth.

So the next time you’re listening to your thoughts, make sure they’re thoughts worth listening to. If not, be aware that they might just be “sales” hype leading you away from success!