Why do we self-sabotage ourselves and how to overcome it

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Self sabotage is a very real struggle

Someone once asked me “Why do you always insist on taking the hard road.” I replied, “Why do you assume I see 2 roads?” As a coach and business consultant, I can easily relate to this mindset and I know self sabotage is a very real struggle for many people. Why do we self-sabotage ourselves so much?

This probably speaks to you if you’re someone who finds it impossible to break out of bad habits or destructive behaviour. You know you’re doing things you shouldn’t but you can’t seem to make better choices.

Running your own business requires an extraordinary level of resilience. There is no room for self sabotage if you want to be successful in the long term. There are enough challenges running a business on a daily and weekly basis as it is. Creating more hurdles for yourself through self doubt and self sabotage is a short cut to disaster.

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Goal setting… it starts with planting the seed

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Have you ever experienced the feeling of achieving a really massive goal?

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve helped someone achieve a goal, when they’d initially told me  “I can’t do that”, I could retire tomorrow. What a nice thought!

Sometimes it was a small goal, like completing one full push-up or jogging 400 metres around the block without stopping. Other times it was something huge, like running a marathon, writing a book or starting a brand new business. Continue reading “Goal setting… it starts with planting the seed”

The Productive Procrastinator

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Is there such thing as a productive procrastinator?

Hands up if you are a terrible procrastinator. Yep, me too! However somehow I am also incredibly productive so it got me thinking. Is there such thing as a productive procrastinator? I think the answer might be yes.

How is it possible that you could be very productive and a terrible procrastinator at the same time? I think it comes down to working to your strengths. And in my experience, that seems to be the key to productivity. Continue reading “The Productive Procrastinator”

Self doubt isn’t all bad – 8 strategies for overcoming self doubt in business

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Self doubt isn’t all that bad

Every business owner experiences self doubt at one point or another and the great news is that self doubt isn’t all bad!

The pressure of being a business owner and running a business often feeds an ongoing battle between self confidence and self doubt. Even the best business owners face this battle continuously. The question of how to overcome self doubt is one I get asked quite a bit and there are definitely are some great strategies that can help. Continue reading “Self doubt isn’t all bad – 8 strategies for overcoming self doubt in business”

Don’t believe everything you think

Believe in yourself

We all know not to believe everything we read in the media.

The media is full of sensationalist stories, designed to make you believe what the publishers want you to believe. The stories are designed to sell papers, magazines, and advertising. Stories make money and the more sensational the story, the more chance you will buy. The more money the publishers and share holders makes. Therefore you shouldn’t believe everything you read.

You shouldn’t believe everything you think either! Your thoughts are often just stories you’re telling yourself to “sell” yourself an idea and validate your situation. You might have heard the old saying, ‘there are three sides to every story: your side, my side and the truth’. Your perspective can create a completely different story in your mind compared to the reality of the situation. Watch out! Your perspective can sometimes have you on the wrong tracks.

Same situation, different reaction

How is it that the same situation can illicit completely different reactions in two different people. Two individuals could lose their job: one spirals into a pit of depression, believing that it’s the worst thing that has ever happened. The other sees a huge opportunity to try something new or venture out into a new career.

As humans we are notorious for creating mountains out of mole hills and for inventing drama for the fun of it. It’s so common to believe in excuses which have no merit and to tell yourself stories about all kinds of awful things that may happen which are simply not true.

Your thoughts are seeded in self-preservation. It’s human nature to do everything possible to stay safe and stay alive. Instead of taking the easiest road from point A to point B, you might find yourself taking the hard road instead because you don’t realise there is a better way. Your thoughts are designed to help you avoid pain, and to protect you from harm. But in protecting you from pain and harm, your thoughts can lead you away from doing what may be necessary to achieve growth.

So the next time you’re listening to your thoughts, make sure they’re thoughts worth listening to. If not, be aware that they might just be “sales” hype leading you away from success!

One more step…

What if success was just one more step, one more action or one more brave decision beyond where you stopped because you thought success was beyond your reach?

What if all it took was for you to keep trying just a bit longer or just one more time?

Success comes from determination, persistence, consistency and resilience. It doesn’t matter how long it takes, as long as you keep going long enough to get to the end goal.

It doesn’t matter if you fall down once, if you fall down ten times or one hundred times. All it takes to achieve success is for you to get up again, one more time after the last hurdle.

You can do it. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.