The glass half full – can the pessimist become the optimist?

can the pessimist become the optimist?

Can the pessimist become an optimist?

The optimist and the pessimist. You’re either one or the other, aren’t you? The optimist is upbeat, always seeing the glass half full. The pessimist wallows in self-pity, moaning over their half empty glass. The optimist achieves excellence while the pessimist blames everyone and everything for their failures. Which are you? Continue reading “The glass half full – can the pessimist become the optimist?”

Self sabotage: why do you choose the hard road?

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Self sabotage is a very real struggle

Someone once asked me “Why do you always insist on taking the hard road.” I replied, “Why do you assume I see 2 roads?” As a coach, I can easily relate to this mindset and I know it is a very real struggle for many people. Of course, I’m talking about self sabotage.

This probably speaks to you if you’re someone who finds it impossible to break out of bad habits or destructive behaviour. You know you’re doing things you shouldn’t but you can’t seem to make better choices. Continue reading “Self sabotage: why do you choose the hard road?”

Goal setting… it starts with planting the seed

Planting the seed, goal setting.

Have you ever experienced the feeling of achieving a really massive goal?

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve helped someone achieve a goal, when they’d initially told me  “I can’t do that”, I could retire tomorrow. What a nice thought!

Sometimes it was a small goal, like completing one full push-up or jogging 400 metres around the block without stopping. Other times it was something huge, like running a marathon, writing a book or starting a brand new business. Continue reading “Goal setting… it starts with planting the seed”

The Productive Procrastinator

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Is there such thing as a productive procrastinator?

Hands up if you are a terrible procrastinator. Yep, me too! However somehow I am also incredibly productive so it got me thinking. Is there such thing as a productive procrastinator? I think the answer might be yes.

How is it possible that you could be very productive and a terrible procrastinator at the same time? I think it comes down to working to your strengths. And in my experience, that seems to be the key to productivity. Continue reading “The Productive Procrastinator”

A surprising revelation

I’ve got a little bit of a surprising revelation to share with you today. Are you ready?

You’re not perfect.

Ground breaking I know! Your partner isn’t perfect either. Neither is your child, your parents, your siblings, your boss, your customer, your colleagues or your friends. And neither am I.

Your environment is not perfect either and it never will be.

In some way, shape, or form we are all a little bit broken, damaged, bent, scarred, crooked, chipped or cracked. And in any number of ways, we will always have hurdles to overcome in our life and in our circumstances.

And that’s ok.

It’s all just part of the human experience and it’s the imperfections that make you unique. So instead of using your flaws as excuses, as a reason why you can’t reach your potential or why you can’t achieve the success you want, how about you embrace the ‘gaps’ in your not so perfect little life and learn to grow around them.

Have you ever seen a tree that has been planted on a concrete sidewalk or against a fence? When it outgrows the space it’s been given, it doesn’t give up. It doesn’t shrink back into the space it is supposed to be occupying. It breaks through it’s not so perfect environment and simply fills the gaps that are available. It finds the way through and keeps growing. Sometimes it grows into a rather hideous, ugly mess of roots and branches going in every other direction than what nature would otherwise expect, but it’s still standing and it’s still living and it just gets on with being the best version of itself that its surroundings allow it to be.

So this is just a reminder to embrace your flaws and your deficiencies in your abilities and your surroundings. Focus on those gaps and the opportunities that ARE available and grow into those in the best way that you can.

First light

Wednesday of last week I woke early as I had a flight to catch. My alarm went off at 4.45am and as I opened my eyes I could see it was still dark outside. Before I left for the airport, I took my little dog Charlie for a walk. As we headed out the front door, we were greeted by a loud choir of bird songs.

It was really quite beautiful.

Even though it was still dark, I could sense there was the slightest hint of first light on the horizon (daylight saving hadn’t kicked in yet!). The birds knew. They knew that the day loomed. They knew that possibilities were just around the corner. They were ready for action, even though it was still dark.

It got me thinking.

You don’t need to wait for the day to be shining bright before you begin. You don’t need everything to be in place before you start. Just like the birds this morning who were chirping at the sign of first light on the horizon, the slightest hint of possibility is enough for you to switch on and start creating action.

Do you have a hint of ‘first light’ on your horizon? Is there a chance for something great? The smallest sign is enough. Just begin and then trust in the process. You’ve got this!

Don’t believe everything you think

Believe in yourself

We all know not to believe everything we read in the media.

The media is full of sensationalist stories, designed to make you believe what the publishers want you to believe. The stories are designed to sell papers, magazines, and advertising. Stories make money and the more sensational the story, the more chance you will buy. The more money the publishers and share holders makes. Therefore you shouldn’t believe everything you read.

You shouldn’t believe everything you think either! Your thoughts are often just stories you’re telling yourself to “sell” yourself an idea and validate your situation. You might have heard the old saying, ‘there are three sides to every story: your side, my side and the truth’. Your perspective can create a completely different story in your mind compared to the reality of the situation. Watch out! Your perspective can sometimes have you on the wrong tracks.

Same situation, different reaction

How is it that the same situation can illicit completely different reactions in two different people. Two individuals could lose their job: one spirals into a pit of depression, believing that it’s the worst thing that has ever happened. The other sees a huge opportunity to try something new or venture out into a new career.

As humans we are notorious for creating mountains out of mole hills and for inventing drama for the fun of it. It’s so common to believe in excuses which have no merit and to tell yourself stories about all kinds of awful things that may happen which are simply not true.

Your thoughts are seeded in self-preservation. It’s human nature to do everything possible to stay safe and stay alive. Instead of taking the easiest road from point A to point B, you might find yourself taking the hard road instead because you don’t realise there is a better way. Your thoughts are designed to help you avoid pain, and to protect you from harm. But in protecting you from pain and harm, your thoughts can lead you away from doing what may be necessary to achieve growth.

So the next time you’re listening to your thoughts, make sure they’re thoughts worth listening to. If not, be aware that they might just be “sales” hype leading you away from success!